tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post8832301021465141471..comments2023-07-23T11:53:16.145-04:00Comments on This Heart of Mine: Friends ForeverSamantha Brinn Merelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15109435460094526642noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-34307055133441418642013-05-24T17:33:17.351-04:002013-05-24T17:33:17.351-04:00Oh, how I get this. In fact, I just found out my s...Oh, how I get this. In fact, I just found out my seventh-grade BFF was engaged...on Facebook. I was hurt at first that she hadn't told me personally, but I think people come into and out of our lives for reasons. As you grew and evolved, your friend may have stopped fitting you. And it's awfully hard to get over the "she's just not happy for me" thing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06494479215513613669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-76908086833585237072013-05-24T07:11:35.208-04:002013-05-24T07:11:35.208-04:00Sucks, doesn't it? I understand completely, I...Sucks, doesn't it? I understand completely, I'm sorry to say. Enjoyed reading this in spite of the painful truth.Louise Ducotehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01390647405858661686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-21024816833772290482013-05-23T19:07:41.586-04:002013-05-23T19:07:41.586-04:00I, like you, would be the one to invite her just b...I, like you, would be the one to invite her just because of our history together. Sad that some people don't find your past friendship valuable enough to extend an opportunity to rekindle the friendship. Your Doctor's Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18010888083503743747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-7270002504409894212013-05-23T15:15:59.297-04:002013-05-23T15:15:59.297-04:00The endings to those kinds of friendships are so s...The endings to those kinds of friendships are so sad. There isn't a place you can look to to see what happened, or an argument you can apologize for - a slow drift can't be pinpointed, which is frustrating. Natalie DeYounghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16906680301422288990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-10531477538770238722013-05-23T14:24:00.787-04:002013-05-23T14:24:00.787-04:00I definitely had some of those when I got together...I definitely had some of those when I got together with my hubby. I didn't get it then and still don't. Definitely felt mad and sad. Eventually, I figured that the fact that they weren't on board with the choices I made and with my amazing husband, then it was probably better not to have them as friends. But it still does make me sad, thinking back.Kirsten Oliphanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00496242688262871608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-76935070866470693892013-05-23T11:45:23.216-04:002013-05-23T11:45:23.216-04:00It's always sad when old friendships pass. So...It's always sad when old friendships pass. Some of my friends still talk to friends from high school, and I'm jealous of them. Heck, many of my college friends have now faded from attention. Even sadder, I'm starting to lose touch with some friends gained post-college...Cutterhttp://thecutterrambles.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-37034930506113339682013-05-23T00:35:50.519-04:002013-05-23T00:35:50.519-04:00I agree with Christie when she said that everyone ...I agree with Christie when she said that everyone could probably relate to this on some level. But man did you tell it better than I ever could. <br />I am so sorry you drifted apart. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09022540233075643448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-25159080275507058472013-05-22T23:40:40.929-04:002013-05-22T23:40:40.929-04:00I'm always sad when a friendship ends even whe...I'm always sad when a friendship ends even when it was no longer meant to be.Robbie Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12355421896613106268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-11949275782286872482013-05-22T17:33:22.746-04:002013-05-22T17:33:22.746-04:00Oh, honey, that really stinks. Sadly, I think that...Oh, honey, that really stinks. Sadly, I think that most of us have relationships like this. I know I do/did. Perhaps you will reconnect in upcoming years. And, if not, just remember that people come into our lives for different reasons - some for a moment, some for a season, some for a lifetime.Christine Organhttp://www.christineorgan.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-40772171643358941242013-05-22T14:27:03.292-04:002013-05-22T14:27:03.292-04:00Oh, man... I hate it when friendships wither like ...Oh, man... I hate it when friendships wither like that. Many hugs...IASoupMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11222652185240780006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-53991090176857512532013-05-22T13:54:07.749-04:002013-05-22T13:54:07.749-04:00That is sad. Watching something that was once prec...That is sad. Watching something that was once precious die is always heartbreaking. ((( Hugs )))Larkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01782254001145914109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-4326074555852600542013-05-22T11:41:53.127-04:002013-05-22T11:41:53.127-04:00Great essay - I completely relate and I'm happ...Great essay - I completely relate and I'm happy to hear you're not taking the blame anymore. I had a similar college friendship that went bust, and now I see how easy it is for people to grow apart. I do believe only some friendships are meant to last. hugs to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-59746964626171265752013-05-22T10:03:58.885-04:002013-05-22T10:03:58.885-04:00Oh dear. I can relate to that very very much. I ha...Oh dear. I can relate to that very very much. I had a friend, actually pretty much the best friend forever kind throughout school. Then because of college I had to move and the exact fate of the friendship played out. We grew apart. I received news from her front from other friends. And I understood that it was the end of it when she missed my birthday and I saw her doing stuff around Facebook on the very same day.<br /> I am so sorry it ended the way it did for you but I guess the best of friend hold the worst of grudges against each other. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07064123543002117090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-65538370706122005482013-05-22T08:13:36.066-04:002013-05-22T08:13:36.066-04:00This broke my heart for you because it took so lon...This broke my heart for you because it took so long and you had to figure it out yourself. No talking it through. No chances. True friends should be happy during your happy moments (they can be envious too but happiness is the overriding emotion). It makes you appreciate who you DO have in your life. And when you get to my age, it has happened many times over and it's still hard to let go. But you understand it better. This was so heartfelt!<br /><br />And I'm jealous because you found words and an awesome story ;-)Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04841767868797265391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-56532229868783796142013-05-22T07:30:17.381-04:002013-05-22T07:30:17.381-04:00I think the fact that friendships grow apart and c...I think the fact that friendships grow apart and change has been one of the hardest things in life for me to accept. I admit that Facebook has made it better, thought it took a long time to be OK with just checking in on old dear friends and knowing that they are well, getting to tell them every now and again how special they still are to me. But it took YEARS of hurt with some of them to be at that point. I hope you can get there with your friend. Hugs.Michelle Longohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15437193620480920753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-33896407402168388702013-05-21T17:18:02.261-04:002013-05-21T17:18:02.261-04:00Friendships are so complicated. I love the saying...Friendships are so complicated. I love the saying about how some friends are friends for life and some for just a season of life. Hard to accept, but true, I think. Mamarifichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04861115843532508157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-2626255417594929842013-05-21T16:44:36.697-04:002013-05-21T16:44:36.697-04:00This post made me sad, and nostalgic for a similar...This post made me sad, and nostalgic for a similar relationship with a friend who is no longer in my life. This is a well- written piece. I enjoyed it.psychochefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12863106240537001318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-49982122912847957112013-05-21T16:23:02.056-04:002013-05-21T16:23:02.056-04:00i've got a friend exactly like that, only i wa...i've got a friend exactly like that, only i was hurt for a long time from our 'breakup'. it's sad when things like that happen, but there are reasons why some friendships stay and others just fade away... great essaywww.icescreammama.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13002351185759292747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-8275507904510027852013-05-21T15:04:08.188-04:002013-05-21T15:04:08.188-04:00argh yes. I had a relationship like this. and thin...argh yes. I had a relationship like this. and thinking back on it all makes me so sad. we were friends for SO long. but when it mattered most, she wasn't there. and I wasn't there. it's so unfortunate how some things in life pan out.christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02983259980848913151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-1723326444459644852013-05-21T14:36:38.285-04:002013-05-21T14:36:38.285-04:00Ugh, this one hit right where it hurts. I hear you...Ugh, this one hit right where it hurts. I hear you so so so so well. And really, you're right. It's nobody's fault and there's less you can do about it. People always quote "priority versus option" relationships in relation to significant others, but I think they're more apt for friendships.Briehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08758849718304299028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-56700468800568142652013-05-21T13:20:29.593-04:002013-05-21T13:20:29.593-04:00Oh how sad. I'm sad, too. I want you to write ...Oh how sad. I'm sad, too. I want you to write to her, a big heartfelt friendship love letter. And I want that to magically heal all the wounds. (I have no idea whether it would or not - this desire speaks more about me than you.) Jester Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10441806535770013592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-5209232438906276752013-05-21T13:09:39.050-04:002013-05-21T13:09:39.050-04:00I completely relate to this. I know it is suppose...I completely relate to this. I know it is supposed to be natural for friendships to ebb and flow and sometimes finally fizzle, but it is sad. And that sadness often starts with "madness" for me, too. Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06281433748053233153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-1682465761041977652013-05-21T12:58:38.007-04:002013-05-21T12:58:38.007-04:00Sad story, but that probably happens more often th...Sad story, but that probably happens more often than we think. Nice tribute to a friendship-once-had!Daniel Nesthttp://nest-expressed.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-34389124376370892712013-05-21T12:52:36.451-04:002013-05-21T12:52:36.451-04:00That's how some of my friends are. One in part...That's how some of my friends are. One in particular. Every time I think about her I get sad and down about what happened. And then I have those days (almost two years later) where something happens and I think "oh she would love this!" or "I really need to talk to her about this. She would know what to say." But, because we drifted so far apart, we don't talk at all. <br />So I understand what your going through! You explained it much better than I ever could!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118261797831917447.post-82058555455974045442013-05-21T12:26:36.985-04:002013-05-21T12:26:36.985-04:00I have friends like that- its sad how it happens. ...I have friends like that- its sad how it happens. People just grow apart, sometimes for no good reason at all. Sorry you are missing your friend :(Kate @ Another Clean Slatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08646464393586461119noreply@blogger.com